I’ve been listening to a lovely song by Lisa Hannigan, called I Don’t Know.
I’m inspired to reflect yet again on the importance of connecting with other people and listening to their stories.
When I meet you, I don’t know anything about you.
I don’t know what your special gifts are; I don’t know what challenges you most. I don’t know what you like or what you don’t like to do.
I don’t know what joys and pains have carved out your being. And I don’t know what makes your spirit soar.
I don’t know until I listen to your story. Until I bring open ears and an open heart to time spent with you. I don’t know until I ask. And, as Alan Alda once said:
The difference between listening and pretending to listen, I discovered, is enormous. … Real listening is a willingness to let the other person change you. When I’m willing to let them change me, something happens between us that’s more interesting than a pair of duelling monologues.
Here’s Lisa Hannigan singing I Don’t Know:
I also love the way that Lisa, as she sings, cuts paper to make a beautiful world out of the blank room in which she begins.
For me it was a reminder that listening to your story also helps me build my own world – because listening to your story helps me re-story my own.